It comes down to consent

By law, a person only consents to sexual activity “if she or he agrees by choice, and has the freedom and capacity to make that choice”. If you said “yes” to something because you were scared for your life or safety, or of someone you care about, or if you were asleep or unconscious or incapacitated through alcohol or drugs, then you didn’t agree by choice and didn’t have the freedom and capacity to make that choice.

If you said “no”, you meant no. Watch the video below to find out more about consent:

Consent to Sexual Activity

Consent means freely agreeing to take part in sexual activity. It must be given willingly by everyone involved and can be withdrawn at any time, even after sexual activity has started. Consent cannot be assumed because someone is in a relationship, has consented before, or does not say "no". A person cannot give consent if they are asleep, unconscious, heavily affected by alcohol or drugs, or being pressured, threatened, or forced.

Sexual activity without consent is never acceptable and may be a criminal offence. Consent should be clear, ongoing, and based on mutual respect.

Clear consent includes:

• Saying “yes” and actively agreeing.
• Checking in with each other and respecting boundaries.
• Understanding that silence does not mean consent.
• Stopping if someone says "no", seems unsure, or becomes uncomfortable.
• Remembering that consent to one activity does not mean consent to another.

Good communication about consent helps create safe, respectful, and healthy relationships.